“With every act of self-care your authentic self gets stronger, and the fearful, critical mind gets weaker. Every act of self-care is a powerful declaration: I am on my side. I am on my side, each day I am more and more on my own side.”
Susan Weiss Berry
Hi. I am a coach and therapist living and working in Argyll on the West Coast of Scotland.
I want to help alleviate pain suffering and injustice in the world and to play my part in creating a kinder, fairer more sustainable world for all of life on earth.
Through my journey to heal my own pain and suffering I have learned a huge amount about not only how to change but more importantly what stops us.
I am curious, and always asking why, I don’t just do things because everyone else does unless I find there’s a very good reason to do so. This questioning attitude keeps me learning and open to new ideas and ways of helping myself and my clients make the changes we desire in our lives.
By helping you live simpler, calmer more deeply connected lives you love, where you take better care of yourself and the world, I believe we can create a happier healthier planet and we definitely need that now.
With all the pain and suffering happening on the planet it can be easy to get overwhelmed, to feel helpless and hopeless. Some of us bury our heads in the sand and numb out, others rant and rage, others are swamped by sadness and distress. All of these feelings are valid in response to the crazy place we find ourselves in at the beginning of the 21st century, but I believe these feelings are often magnified by our own personal pain and suffering. It is my experience that by healing my own underlying pain I am able to get clarity about my part in the healing of our world and I am better able to get on with it.
CHANGE IS ALWAYS POSSIBLE
We can survive and thrive despite what has happened to us.
I love being able to help others overcome what stops them in life, to regain their health, and their energy, their passion and their joy. I believe that as we reconnect with ourselves in these ways we automatically take better care of the world, it is a win win situation.
I used to feel overwhelmed and totally stressed out much of the time. I was frantic, frazzled and freaked out about the destruction of the planet and I often struggled to see the point in life, it felt meaningless and I believed nothing could ever change.
“Now I know change IS possible, no matter how awful things may seem there is a ALWAYS a way out. I may not know what that is right now, but there is a way and I can find it.”
As a child my asking why illicited some pretty rough treatment. Who wants their authority challenged, their decisions, beliefs and way of life questioned? By my mid 20’s I was depressed and seeing a clinical psychologist, the beginning of my journey of change. I came to understand that I had been brought up in an alcoholic family.
Alcoholism is an illness of denial and somehow even though terrible things happened in our family I had minimised or blocked them out. To survive I had shut down, zoned out and cut-off from the real authentic me. Gradually the therapists I saw and groups I attended helped me understand the impact of what had happened, that the physical, emotional and sexual abuse had left me feeling that I was wrong, not good enough and unlovable, and not trusting myself, my instincts and intuition.
Several years ago I was diagnosed with ME/CFS which was a huge shock. Some people still believe that it’s a mystery illness that can’t be cured. I don’t believe that.
ME/CFS led me to the discovery of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) which played a major part in my self-healing from this condition. EFT has dovetailed beautifully with the therapeutic skills I already had, allowing me to work in deeper and more effective ways.
I have had to work hard making changes to my diet and lifestyle and I have faced some painful truths about myself and my life. Not only has this journey radically changed my life it has helped me learn some truly amazing things about healing the mind, body and spirit, which I can now share with you.
I want to be part of healing the world and I believe that process begins with us each working on healing ourselves. The Work That Reconnects has been instrumental in this, for me, as has the idea of Active Hope. I now use these healing tools in my own life as well as my work with others.
“Active Hope is about finding, and offering, our best response to the crisis of sustainability unfolding in our world. It offers tools that help us face the mess we’re in, as well as find and play our role in the collective transition, or Great Turning, to a life-sustaining society.”
You don’t necessarily have to go through years of therapeutic support or get ill like I did in order to understand and heal; you can begin right now.
I offer an integrative and eclectic approach to healing what ails you, combining the best of what I have learned with a supportive, encouraging environment where I believe change is always possible. No matter how grim things may seem, no matter how tightly the fears are wrapped around you, there is a way. You just have not found it yet.
More About Me
I regularly meditate and practice gratitude and mindfulness. I enjoy yoga and swimming and I am a firm believer in the healing power of a good walk and of being out in nature.
In also enjoy exploring living simply and sustainable, permaculture, forest gardening, painting and felt making. I love sailing and was fortunate enough to take an extended trip with my family a few years ago.
I am mum to young adult twins who I home schooled for 7 years. I have, amazingly been married for over 25 years and I love my deep intimate woman friendships which support and sustain me through the ups and downs of life.
Believe that change is always possible.
If my journey resonates with you and you are ready to embrace change, clear what stops you enjoying your life and embark on an incredibly rewarding adventure of self-healing and personal growth please contact me. I offer a free initial consultation where we can find out if we can work together. Just click on “Contact”, and fill out the brief form.